Social Media. Selfies. Privacy. Remaining Mysterious…

Once again, more and more people are sharing their lives online in the form of selfies, photos, videos (especially Facebook with it’s ‘live video’ thingy.

On the surface, it’s a good thing, right?

But, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and contemplating about the dark side of social media and social networking sites.

I have a few friends (won’t mention any names) who hate Facebook, for instance.

Facebook has become the next bragbook, and while everyone has the right to publish their lives online, there are people who are seeing how others are living so much better than they are.

I know, they shouldn’t take Facebook and its users too personally, but I can feel it too.

When I shared all my photos of my Spain trip on Facebook (mainly because I wanted a convenient place to store every good photo I took of my trip on the cloud) I could tell that I was being ignored but some people. My intuition was telling me that maybe I overstepped my bounds of common decency. That maybe it appeared that I was showing off. And heaven forbid that I would want to come off as bragging.

I don’t get to travel much. And, I definitely see others traveling more than me when I check out others’ travel pics in Italy, Greece, Ireland, England, etc….

Sure, I get envious that I wish I could travel more, but I appreciate that others share their travels, because it’s as if they are letting me travel with them by sharing their photos. No jealousy here. Keep sharing the travel pics.

But, some FB peeps do seem jealous and I can feel the passive agressive behavior through the blue pages of Facebook.

Anyway, back to selfies and social media.

Where is the privacy nowadays?

But, I don’t mind (and have nothing against) people sharing.

It’s just that in the past several years (and yes I’ve been on Facebook a long time now) I’ve felt the need to remain more private.

And, I don’t want that many Facebook friends. Just the few that I feel count in my online world. And if you are a part of that smaller group, I’m glad your here and I thank you for the love and support.

Yes, I have a smaller Facebook account with no more than 20 Facebook friends, and that’s how I want to keep it. Because I get the feeling that people (especially relatives) just want to friend me to keep tabs on what I’m up to, and not necessarily with a good conscience.

There I’ve said it.

Yes, Facebook has a lot of frenemies, I’m afraid.

And I would rather just have a small handful of friends (both online and in real life) than to have thousands.

For me, it’s more comfortable that way.

Plus. I would like to remain more anonymous, like the old days. And not anonymous like the horrible trolls that lurk about on social media.

I believe in ethics and morality, especially online.

You can be anonymous and also be one of the good guys.

In the end. Social Media is just a tool (as I’ve said before). But, it’s how we use it that makes all the difference.

It’s important to have some sense of decency and respect online.

It’s important to remain positive.



Carlos Rull

Carlos Rull is a musician living in the San Diego area. His interests include Yoga, Eastern Philosophy, Zen Buddhism, and Gardening. He plays drums, piano, and composes New Age & Ambient music, and his albums are available on iTunes and

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