The Families Who Will Be Missing Someone on Christmas

Someone recently posted that we are all accountable for our own actions.

I took that to mean that we are all responsible for our own successes or failures in Life. And, while I wholeheartedly agree with that thought, there is another side to Life that must be emphasized because it is equally important.

We are ALL interconnected…

Not only are we responsible for our own lives, we are responsible for the lives of others around us.

We are ALL interconnected…

And this occurs at all levels of interaction between our fellow human beings, from our personal lives to our career networks, from our social interactions online to real Life. We are NOT beings that can totally exist on our own. We depend greatly on each other, from parent to child, from employer to employee, from teacher to student.

But, no point can be made more clearly than the fact that we have the potential to affect each other in greater ways than we can imagine, whether in a devastating way, or in a more positive and enriching way.

The Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting was an example of humanity at its worst. A single human being who, for whatever reasons he had, took the lives of 20 innocent children and 6 female teachers and administrators. No doubt, this is a tragedy of devastating proportions and not only did it directly affect those victims and their families and friends; but it also affected all of us.

Again, we are ALL interconnected…

How we were raised by our parents affects us. How we are treated by our fellow human beings affects us. No man is an island, and we depend on each other, for better or worse.

Regarding the Sandy Hook shooting; I am heartbroken. My heart is heavy with sadness, and in the back of my mind I think about this tragedy a lot. And I’ve never really talked about how I felt about this until now. I just can not comprehend how a young man can kill women and children; innocent lives, children who had a future ahead of them, who might’ve been destined to meet their soul mate, or to be a part of friendships not yet kindled. It’s a chain of human events that have been snuffed out by one lone, angry gunman.

Maybe he had some serious mental issues, or maybe not. The obvious answer is that he was angry about something, and decided he was going to take out his anger on others. Maybe his mind was in an evil place and he had the overwhelming desire to retaliate and make others pay for his problems. In this regard, this gunman was accountable for his actions, but because we are interconnected to each other, many innocent lives were taken as a result of his actions. Did those innocent lives deserve that? Of course not, and it isn’t fair that these innocent young lives were taken too early in their Life’s journey. And it was unfair that 6 adult lives were taken from their loved ones who needed them.

On the other side of this tragic story is the family of the lone gunman. This family lost a mother and a son/brother. And they will have to bear their loss as well, and their burden that a loved one of theirs commited such violent acts. Could the family of the shooter have done something to prevent this tragedy?

These are tough questions to ask.

In the end, we are all interconnected by the love we have for each other, as well as whatever hatred exists. But I am definitely all for LOVE as a more superior “glue” to bind us together. The very nature of LOVE is a much higher level of existence. As hatred stems from the ego and the self’s needs to take, to crave power, to be greedy, selfish and uncaring. While true LOVE is based on giving of ourselves to those we love, and to our fellow human beings.

When I say that this tragedy weighs heavy on my heart, I know that I am not alone, and that others out there feel the same way. I sincerely, and with all my heart, hope that we all will be in a better place, right now in the present and well into the future.



Carlos Rull

Carlos Rull is a musician living in the San Diego area. His interests include Yoga, Eastern Philosophy, Zen Buddhism, and Gardening. He plays drums, piano, and composes New Age & Ambient music, and his albums are available on iTunes and

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